People have an issue with homosexuality because...

So it isn't so much that they have an issue with homosexuality--they have an issue with sexuality in general. I realized that many folk feel guilty about sex. And maybe not even guilt, but definitely a sense of shame. I don't understand it frankly. Sex, rather good sex, is essential to living a happy and productive life.

Have you ever noticed how some people don't even think that sex is supposed to be pleasurable? I know some women who are just content in having sex. They don't know what an orgasm feels like or how to get comfortable with themselves. It does stem back to this idea that sex is bad, mostly taught by preachers who are getting it from every corner of the church.

What is so wrong with sex? Not just sex---what's wrong with getting pleasure from sex? I mean goodness gracious--if it ain't good, why have it?

Breastfeeding while Driving

I thought I heard something about a woman breastfeeding her baby while driving. Deborah @ Middle Girl confirmed it by sending me this article. And I thought sewing while driving was bad.

Take Care of YOU

I was talking to my girlfriend last night and we realized that we give away to much of ourselves. The good creative side is usually used to help other people. Now this is only a bad thing because we haven't taken the time to use it for ourselves and aren't replenishing the source as needed.

Let me break it down... I have a pattern of Working my arse off to help (fill in name) get(fill in project) done...

1. At any previous job...worked my arse off to make (fill in the blank) program successful...
2. Worked my arse off to help (fill in name) get graduate school applicaion complete...
3. Worked my arse off to get person profiled in major magazine...

I thought about adding names, but realized it isn't just one person. It isn't just a few people. It's a lot of people and it's time for me to start working my arse off for myself....

That's it for today...Gotta go work my arse off. I guess you could say I am in self-preservation mode.

I want what you have...

I've heard that statement to many times. And it is always in reference to a relationship. Yes, my relationship with my girlfriend is wonderful. Yes we will have a lot of years under our belt this year.

We've had some really fun and marvelous times...

...BUT...

...not without the work. It has not been a walk in the park. We worked our tails off to get to this point. Let's talk about us being friends for 2 years before we even got into a relationship. I don't talk about how our other friendships were tested as we tried to keep it in the closet. I don't talk about the crying, the pain, or the shame we experienced in the beginning. And I don't talk about the all-girls school heteronormative black experience.

It was a painful journey, but our love for each other buffered it along the way. We had to work on communication, getting used to each others habits, the normal likes and dislikes coupled with all the stuff lesbians have to deal with. So please, don't look at other people's relationships and say, "I want what you all have."
You only see what's on the surface.

Sex on the Brain Pt. 2

So I have really been busy this week. I mean, I wanted to post and read blogs, but I could only manage the reading part. Ya'll are some funny people. I must confess though, reading blogs isn't what is monopolizing my time.

SEX has me on the go.

I am not a nympho. But I finally decided to follow my heart and took a leap of faith to become the sex diva I always thought of myself as. Do you remember my big dream of becoming a lgbt-centered relationship therapist and maybe even getting into a syndicated program? (A lot of that was in the comments of the Sex on the Brain post.) Well my dream has been put into action and I am now a Pure Romance Consultant. Thanks Tammy!

So excited! Right now, I am still contemplating whether to go for the counseling degree. I mean they just really go hand in hand. But I don't know if I really need it. Plus I already have a health educator degree and that will already prove useful. As time progresses, I am sure that will be made clear. I just like school ya'll, so pay me no mind. I mean like I really really like going to class and having intellectual conversations. I digress.

I am heading to Florida in a couple of weeks to do 2 parties: one with my momma and the other with my aunt. I am a little nervous because it is my momma, but Hey...she's open minded when it comes to sex; just not sexual orientation. LOL. She's so funny.

Lessons Learned 2008-2009

Time is a great buffer. I have learned more lessons now than even the ones I thought I had learned at the beginning of the year. Here they are:

1. A dream won't come true if you don't a) really want it; b) believe it will come true; and c) put in the work to make it happen.

2. I write down my hopes, wishes, and desires. I took a look back over the last year and realized that it was a whole bunch of stuff that I thought I wanted that I could totally care less about.

For instance, I thought I wanted to keep my car for the rest of my life. It was going to be that junker that I drove anywhere I could. I put way too much money into trying to keep it running; all the while planning the next car I would buy. That was a contradiction. I should have let the car go a long time ago and bought the one I really wanted.

3. I also learned that it is totally okay to go against the norm. You would think I learned this lesson a long time ago but clearly I didn't. I spent a lot of time, money, and energy looking for a traditional job. And then God blesses me with a non-traditional job when that's what I wanted all along. LOL. So funny.

And finally I learned that God and the universe will provide all of my true wants, needs, and desires-the ones that I don't contradict myself on. And one that won't make much sense because there is so much that is behind it, but I don't have to control anything but my mind.