A Poem of Friendship by Nikki Giovanni excerpted from Love Poems

"A Poem of Friendship"


We are not lovers
because of the love
we make
but the love
we have


We are not friends
because of the laughs
we spend
but the tears
we save


I don't want to be near you
for the thoughts we share
but the words we never have
to speak


I will never miss you
because of what we do
but what we are
together

Weddings

I loved The Office last night. I don't keep up with characters names but it was the wedding episode. I loved it. It made me think about my own wedding and who would be invited. I already know my family is not on the list-except for my little cousin (he's 23, I know not so little). But the day should be special-- full of love and joy-- not stress. I have found myself contemplating whether or not I would tell my mom or leave it be. I think I am just going to do what makes me happy for a change and not deal with the control freaks by which I am surrounded. It's avoidance I know, but at this time in my life, I don't really care anymore. This is a recurring theme here-- doing stuff to make other people happy. Our wedding will not have that ring to it. The only person I care about being happy is the other bride and myself. Awww... I can't wait for the day.

Birthday Gifts

Yesterday was my mom's birthday. She had the nerve to call me the day before to remind me that it was her birthday-- as if I would forget. I had no idea what to give her. When I was at home, I tried to get her to do a gift personality quiz over at Gifts.com. That was the most trying experience. I know she was trying to be modest and grateful but when you have either/or questions, you don't expect "I don't know. Whatever you get me will be fine," as an answer.

See, I know that "anything" will not do. I have bought her perfume-- "Do you think I stink?" My uncle bought her a sandwich maker-- " You know I don't dammit cook." LOL -- I think that was the funniest. I bought her clothes-- " I don't like that! That is not my style." My granny bought her a sweater one year-- "Thank you. It looks comfortable and nice enough for an old person." Yes! My mother is that hard to shop for.

My girlfriend suggested that I complete the quiz for her. I did and I came up with the perfect gift. I got her a business card holder from Things Remembered and had it engraved with her name and birthday. It is a good gift for 3 reasons:

1. It has an American flag on the front. She is a Republican and very, very, very, very, very, patriotic. Everytime I turn around she is trying to put an American flag on something- book covers, brochures, fliers, etc.
2. She will take it out to show it off. Anytime my mothers name is on something (newspapers, programs, etc.), she will show it off.
3. It can't be returned. She won't want to waste money, so she will use it just the same. Plus she doesn't have one, but her business cards are always in her purse. This will be a nice elegant touch.

It still has to be shipped. But a lot of the online retailers now feature e-card gift announcements. I absolutely love it. I bought it but I don't have to fret about her thinking that I didn't get her something. It was a really cute card and the site allowed me to schedule it's delivery. She responded favorably to the e-card. I will let you know how she responds to the actual gift.