What about your friends?

Friend:  "a person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual or family relations."

I decided, long ago, that I only need friends who are supportive; not ones who subtly judge me or put me down when they can.  I don't have time to deal with other people's issues if I am not getting paid for it. I want to be a therapist but not during my free time.  I seek healthy friendships. I seek out relationships that are reciprocal. Part of that reciprocity includes treating me the way you want to be treated.

A friend of mine was having trouble securing a person to work at one of her events; I called on my friends who lived in the same area.  These friends include gay/straight/college friends/family/folk from around the way.
 

So when I received this message, I was a bit put off: 

Oh ok I'm just seeing the msg. Now is a good time to tell you I don't associate myself with your the lgbt lifestyle anymore. I don't hang out, club, flirt....nothing. it's been a while & I'm thankful. I have a great peace & joy about it. I'm involved in ministry now at my church. I attend spirit of faith christian center here in md. God is awesome. He's been sooo good to me. I say all that to say I'd appreciate if you don't associate me with the lgbt lifestyle. As the word says in Philippians 1:6.... he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. The truth set me free.

My response:  Yes, all is well. For the record, I don't associate you with a "LGBT lifestyle". I associate you as a sister and friend in DC who might know someone in the DC metro area who could help another friend in the same region. Stay blessed.

Here's the thing. I completely respect anyone's desire to change their life. Do you. But don't put me down in the process (especially if the bullshit you are referencing does not apply to me!). Friends don't do that...at least mine don't.  What the hell is the point of having enemies if you have friends like this?

I know bible verses too. Here is my favorite: Matthew 7: 1-3

1"Do not judge so that you will not be judged. 2"For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you. 3"Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?

So let’s be clear about this LGBT LIFESTYLE that people like to speak of: 

CLUBBING

FLIRTING
HANGING OUT
IS NOT EXCLUSIVE TO LGBT INDIVIDUALS (and when did they become associated with sinning)
NEITHER ARE DRUGS, ALCOHOL, ETC.

IN THE SAME MANNER: CHURCH, MINISTRY, BLESSINGS AND FAVOR ARE NOT EXCLUSIVE TO PERSONS WHO IDENTIFY AS HETEROSEXUAL or CHRISTIAN!

 

SINCERELY,

THE BLESSED AND HIGHLY FAVORED

GAY GIRL TAMARA