Reconnecting

Last year, I decided to not call people who didn't call me. This was mainly because I felt like I was bothering people when I contacted them.  Can anyone relate to this? Read about it here...  After re-reading that post, I realized I didn't go indepth about how I felt that some people in my life were simply using me. But, I am sure you are smart enough to get the picture. I would just call to talk or see how someone was doing and they would act like I was committing a sin for speaking their name. So I stopped. 

I ended the reaching out to people because I didn't really think they cared one way or the other.  In that previous post/comments, I recognized that each friend has their purpose/time frame to be in my life.  I have a friend who is solely for traveling, another who I can go to hangout with, another who is good for Barnes & Noble trips, etc... Everyone is not in my life for the same thing.

But there is another group of people that I have neglected.  Other people I just lost touch with...I liked them still the same, they moved to other cities,states,etc and phone numbers got changed, emails were exchanged a few times, but that was about it. I really miss some of those people.  Facebook has done a great job of reconnecting me with the people who I genuinely like, do not get on my nerves, have a lot in common with, and are no longer in the same city/region in which I live. Some I understand are still not supposed to be in my life, while others I can't wait to meet up with again.

Thank God for technology.

Relationships

I was talking with my girlfriend and a few other friends, and we have drawn some conclusions about relationships:

1) After an argument, it is good to reflect and go inside one's self to figure out the underlying issue.

                The results: becoming a better person and having a better relationship.

2) Communication is key to any good relationship.  It is not just hearing but actually listening-deciphering-and creating dialogue; getting right down to the core/meat of the situation.

                 The results: becoming a better person and having a better relationship.

3) All relationships have at least 1 big test.  And you have to be your best self in order to pass it.

                The results: the end or an improved relationship.

Congratulations D.C.

I am totally geaked about DC allowing marriage for two consenting adults regardless of sex. That is progress. All the metro area people now have the burden of paying that $45 dollar filing fee and tying the knot. Congratulations. Here are some great pictures!

In wedding preparations I found a great website:  so you're enGAYged

There is an Etsy shop that makes custome cake toppers: The Enchanted Cupboard

All you need to know about DC Marriages is here.

Passport Day

Aquarius Soul and I are in synch with getting passports. I feel like it is just meant to happen right now. I set up an appointment a few weeks ago for the 31st of March. Then I found out today that the prices could be going up in the not so distant future. There is a passport day on March 27th where you can go and submit the application without an appointment. This is the best time to go. I am telling you, if you think that in the next ten years you may want to travel abroad...just do it. It would really suck if you won tickets or some lady wanted to sweep you off your feet and jetset across the world...and you couldn't go. That would really suck.

Enjoy Life

I haven't gone into talking about myself much lately because there isn't much to say. 30 was a year of discovery and boy have I learned a lot. But there was just stuff I learned...nothing needing analysis or critique. That leads me to my mom...our relationship is so much better now. Today she is flying back home from a Republican Women's Conference and she sent me a text from the airport. Near the end of the conversation I told her to have fun and you know...those types of pleasentries. She was like I am on my way home. I said I know...you can have fun and enjoy the moment anywhere. Then she called me deep. I could imagine her face and expression as she is sitting at the airport ...tired... after a long week of hobnobbing and schmoozing and I am telling her to have MORE fun. I cracked up laughing. I remembered something I was told -- Enjoy the moment.

Sometimes we get so caught up on completing a task...we forget to enjoy the task.
If you like sewing, take pleasure in threading that needle-- it is the start of a new project-- a new beginning.
If you like writing, don't get caught up in the completion of the story...enjoy the writing. Enjoy the creative process. Enjoy Life! God put us here to get as much pleasure as possible! How good can you stand it?

A Creative Woman

I totally forgot about March being Women's History Month. Needless to say, I didn't post anything for Black History Month either.  But like most people, I can not fathom only discussing these phenomenal people only 1 month out of the year. So I have decided to dub Tuesday, Creative Woman Day! I will highlight a creative woman every week! Only positive people with creative spirits can grace my site.  This week is Darnita L. Howard. That's a picture of me- not her- wearing one of her creations. It is from her Cotton Smoothie t-shirt line. It is soooo comfortable.

This is not all my fellow Dream's Fulfilled member has to offer.  Visit her shop or her art site to see more clothes, artwork, and greeting cards!

Ain't it pretty?

This was the cake at one of my friends wedding last year. It was absolutely scrumptious!Sweet Potato Cake. Who would've thought? At least now there are more options to the traditional wedding cake topper. Check out this one from Jamie Lynn!

Jamie Lynn Wedding Ty Wilson Figurines, African American, Bride